My First Teacher

My Mom passed away last Thursday and I've understandably had many emotions and reflections since. I'm hoping this post will help me organize my thoughts since, at this time, my eulogy is not much more than a list of memories. This blog is about my experiences as an educator, I would be remiss if I didn't write about my first teacher. 

One of my earliest lessons from my Mom was about how to treat others. I can remember the kind way she would speak to everyone she encountered, no matter their occupation or position in society--all were equal in her eyes. She listened to others, made a comment or joke that would put others at ease, and showed through eye contact and body language that people mattered to her. This example of respect is one I try to follow and pass along to my children and my students, through my actions and words. 

My Mom taught me resiliency. When life got tough she would allow me to get upset but then walk me through my own problem-solving session. She would refer to it as "picking yourself up, dusting yourself off, and moving forward".  That is the exact same phrase I use with my kids and my students when they are struggling. Mom had sympathy but also helped us empower ourselves when we needed it. Combining those two concepts can really help a person when they need it most.

She taught me gratitude. Raising twin daughters wasn't easy but she did it with grace. I humbly say that she devoted her life to giving us as many opportunities as she could and that has resonated with me. My students complete Gratitude Journals every November and reflect on how they can be more cognizant of the blessings in their lives.

Mom made life an adventure. One example is how she would take us downtown to the office building she worked in on Saturdays during tax season (her busiest time of year). Instead of complaining about working on the weekend, we would help her with tasks such as making copies of forms and she would take us to get an ice cream during a lunch break. Her optimism and sense of adventure are what I'll remember most and try to impart on my children and students.

I was able to share with my Mom the notion that her legacy will live on through not only me and my children but indirectly through all of my students. If I have turned out to be half the mother and half the teacher she was I will consider my life a great success. She is my standard.